Okay, we all have that guy, right? The one who shows up just as things begin to feel okay? The one who gets super pushy and pulls some real shady sh*t to try to muscle in on a positive situation with its doubt and anxiety and fear? Does this sound familiar at all? I’ve had that guy for as long as I can remember. I’ve found that the following three things really help me when it comes to curbing that guy and not allowing him too much headspace:

1. Music: it helps me to get out of my head, to do a task I can complete with it on in the background, and to connect with my soul.
2. Facts: go over the facts you know vs. the “beliefs” that guy is selling. Write down all of the facts you know. Read that list over a few times.
3. Time: what seems like *the worst* right now will inevitably not be the worst tomorrow. I promise you that.

These three things might feel really broad and impossible when that guy is louder than anything you hold true, but remember that the job of that guy is to spoil a good time. That guy is not your friend nor your cheerleader. That guy is the controversial drunk uncle and it’s a good idea to steer clear!